Please take note that this post may be offensive to some. I am not a perfect Christian and my children aren’t perfect either. We all walk our walks. I want to be real and I also want to walk out my faith. No matter how we feel about this subject and the expletives used, we all use them–we make up a word or use one already abundantly spoken.
In a previous post I talked about how I don’t cuss unless I actually try–and how pathetic that is. My husband thinks it’s hilarious!
The subject of cussing has always intrigued me. The use of expletives I totally understand. Everyone uses them, whether its f**k (see, i can’t even write the words…) or Good Golly! (Who really says that?)
My son was explaining to me how his generation is so desensitized to the “F” word that soon it will no longer be considered one of the worst of the expletives. I hear it all the time, in movies, podcasts, youtube videos, as well as the guy standing next to me.
Here’s my common list of expletives:
Crap (which my kids have given me crap about)
Oh my gosh
Pretty harsh I know. Lately I’ve been trying to curse a little. Maybe at 56 I want to feel somewhat grown up but it’s usually a disaster and most of the time it comes out as half a swear word like, Darm or What the hell (with really drawn out L’s that end in a question mark)
I understand people’s need to use profanity or some form of cursing. What do you do when you stub your toe or someone nearly clips your car swerving into your lane? I yell out something… probably darm…
My husband likes to rearrange the letters of a swear word to make me laugh (he’s better at swearing than I am). Words like
Fut the Wuck
You get the picture. And I do laugh every time these fall out rather than the other ones.
Now, when my kids use profanity it’s not the same. Joe Stranger sitting next to me cusses, I give him a pass. My daughter sitting next to me cusses (and she’s an adult), my shoulders rise and I look like that fake smiling emoji. I’m sure they think it’s funny and have dropped the “F-bomb” while talking to me probably just to measure my reaction and tell their friends later (I hope I’m not on some youtube video somewhere)
We so rarely hide our feelings with the ones we love the most. And why are we less likely to give them a “pass”? My kids make their own decisions including the language they use. Am I worried about what other people are thinking? Or how they learned these words (I’ve never heard them say Darm)? And if I sort-of use a cuss word they act like a nuclear bomb was dropped. Strange…
I read an article online called Where the F**k Did Cussing Come From? By Maddie Crum, because I was curious. She quotes Benjamin K Bergen who actually wrote a book on the subject. He says, “It’s not intrinsically good or bad, it’s just powerful. It’s what we do with it that makes a difference.”
Let’s just not hurt anyone with our emphasis and go ahead, yell out if you need to, according to this article it may even be good for you. Just not around the little ones, unless it’s censored. Don’t say anything you don’t want them to say. And yelling an expletive can be recognizable by others or not. Use your own convictions and be aware of those around you.